This is a quest for the ages, and one that I truly believe it’s the most important in your life. Finding a soul mate with whom to share your successes or your sorrows is the thing that can truly make your life worth it. In the end, we are all animals, and one of our most important instincts is to perpetuate the species. We feel the need to bring new life into the world, and the first step towards that goal is finding someone who understands us and loves us for who we are, forgiving our faults and making us become better.
Right of the bat I have to say that, regardless of how bad it sounds, most of the couples out there are not right for one another. There are so many people that are trapped in loveless marriages and relationships, people that suffer all throughout their existence because they do not feel loved and happy with the ones they have chosen to spend their lives with. It is a real problem and it is made worse by the fact that most of these individuals that are trapped in these bad relationships don’t even realize it, they do not understand that it could be so much better, they do not understand that they have a right to be happy.
And this is the main problem today with relationships, that people try to force them, people search for them and they settle just because they are afraid to be alone. As I told you in the beginning, I truly believe that your life is not complete until you find that one person that makes you feel whole, that one person for whom you would be willing to die. But you can’t force that type of connection, it is not something you can go and buy from the supermarket. It is the most important thing but it is also a thing that can only happen naturally.
In order to find your soul mate you have first to be able to live alone, to be happy with yourself. Start analyzing your life, start analyzing yourself, learn to be happy about the way that you are. Only when you are completely content with you and your life alone can you really make a connection with somebody else, a true connection that is. Because if you are happy with the way you live alone, you will accept only a soul mate that actually makes you feel better and be happier. This is the only way to find that true love that will last forever and bring joy and power to your existence.
If you search for it, you will compromise, if you are desperate to find your soul mate, you will never be able to truly do it. You might think you found it, but it will be an illusion and nothing more. Because if you are afraid of being alone, you will go out of your way to find someone, and you will end up making stupid and impossible compromises. You will twist yourself and start setting absurd goals just because you are afraid of being alone.
Now I am not saying you should not make compromises, because any relationship between two people has to be based to a certain degree on compromises. The only problem is that those compromises have to be actually manageable. Even if you like to think otherwise, you are only a human and nothing more, you have desires that you can’t simply wash them away. So when you compromise, you have to keep in mind that no matter how hard you try, you can’t simply stop wanting certain things just because you wish for it very hard.
You are you and you have to accept it and be happy with it. Only then you will find that person that is also happy with it. Be at peace, be happy with yourself. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect anybody else to love you? You want to find your soul mate? Good, there is only one way… Stop wanting to find a soul mate, stop wishing for it, and then and only then it will happen… Naturally, and without your ever realizing it… You will just wake up one day and discover that you are happy, happier then you ever thought it’s possible. Because that is what true love is all about…