Losing weight is becoming more and more an obsession for people around the planet. We all want to be thinner, to look better, to adhere to the model of beauty that we all idealize. This leads to a lot of resentment towards ourselves and towards the society that, in our mind, forces us to look a certain way. I know a lot of people that are destroying their lives simply because they want to look in like something they are not and that does not come naturally for them. They sacrifice so much and yet they will never be happy about the way they look, because they are setting up impossible goals that they can never follow.
And this is the first thing you have to worry about when you decide to lose weight. I know you hate this idea, but it is true. You have to set realistic goals, and by realistic I am not talking about what other people consider to be beautiful, I am not even talking about what doctors’ say is healthy. No, a true and realistic goal is what you know you can manage to pull off, because you and only you know what you are capable off.
We all want to look like supermodels. Heck, we would be crazy if we did not want that. But we have to understand that we can’t get everything we want and we have to adapt our desires to the realities of our bodies. Yes, I want to look like a swimsuit model, but, first of all I know that my body will never permit that and second and most important, I know I will never be able to maintain the regiment necessary to achieve it. And realizing this is not bad, because realizing this is what makes me able to accept myself as I truly am.
If you are a man with a height of 1.90 m and 120 kilograms, wishing to find the magical diet to bring you to 85 kg is absurd. You will never be able to do it and you will only grow more and more frustrated. Set realistic goals, try to get to 110 and see how hard it is to do that and how many sacrifices you have to make in order to achieve it. Then go to 100, or maybe 105, or maybe 95, go for as long as you feel comfortable with it, go for as long as you can without having to give up everything else.
Losing weight is important, it’s healthy to be thin and beautiful, but if that becomes your sole purpose in life then you are doing something wrong. Some of us are meant to be supermodels and some of us are meant to be overweight, that is just how genetics works. You have to accept that there are limits to the amount of changes you can make to your own body and your own personality for that matter. We can’t be anything we want, and we have to find a way to be ok with that and to accept reality as it is.
Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that you are powerless. If you think you are too fat and you want to lose weight, it depends only on you. Stop whining about it and start eating less, start exercising, change your diet, there a lot of things you can do. But don’t expect miracles, don’t expect changes to happen overnight and most of all, understand that there will most certainly be a limit to how much weight you can lose in a rational way.
If you give up every single thing that you enjoy in order to look pretty, what’s the point? What’s the point in looking amazing if you can’t drink a fucking beer or eat a piece of cake without feeling guilty? Do you want to have this feeling of guilt for the rest of your life? Is it worth it? If it is, more power to you, but for the rest of us normal people that know the only purpose in life is to be happy, sacrifices are worth up to a certain point. Discover what that point is for you and then you can start losing weight in a smart way, without transforming it into an obsession. Be smart, be happy and most important, stop caring about what everybody else says…