Do you like BDSM?

The New Year is here and that means the moment is almost upon us again. You know what I am talking about, that terrifying moment when 50 Shades opens in cinemas and we all go and spend our Valentine’s Day watching the adventures of Anastasia Steele and Christian Grey. Grrrrr… Thank God that this year it will be the last chapter of the trilogy and from 2019 onwards we can find a new and better tradition for the 14th of February. But still, since this year we are not so lucky, I have to tell you that no, the fact that you like 50 Shades does not mean that you are into or even understand BDSM.

This is the biggest problem of the movies and this is what makes me so fucking angry. BDSM is a lifestyle, and people who choose it do more than spank each other on the bottom and use a pair of handcuffs. They live a certain way, they enjoy physical and emotional pain, they feel happy when they are being used. You can’t understand it unless you feel it as well, and you should not try to force yourself just because it seems cool. We each have particular things that make us what we are, and we should be proud of them instead of trying to borough what we think will make us cooler… If you want to tie up your girlfriend and spank, just fucking do it, but that does not mean you live a BDSM lifestyle for fucks sake!

Stop trying to be special when you don’t feel a certain way. This is a general problem in our society today and it affects almost every single aspect of our lives. People try to be special and different just because, without understanding that being special and different is not and should never be an option. I mean yes, you can feel certain things and you can behave in certain ways, but you have to do that only if you really feel a need to do it. Don’t just pretend in order to impress those around you.

You can’t even imagine how many people I know that went to see 50 Shades and then came back and told me, full of pride, look, we are into BDSM, we are special and you will never understand our way of life. Just because they saw a fucking movie and just because they liked certain aspects of those sex scenes they now think they are sadists or masochists and they feel the need to brag about that.

Well let me tell you a shocking thing. First of all, people that actually live the BDSM lifestyle do not brag about it, they don’t wear it a as a badge of honor. It is only you that makes a big deal out of everything. And it is the same with any type of sexual fantasy. If you want something and you desire something you are going to find people who are open to the same things and you are going to have a great time fucking with them and trying everything out, but you are not going to shout it all over the Internet. Why? Because the purpose of your fantasies is not to let other people know about them, the purpose is the fantasies in themselves.

You know when we will get rid of the racism and sexism and discrimination that all of you snowflakes are shouting about? When you will stop glorifying their absence. Somebody casts a white actor in a role, everybody is saying whitewashing. Somebody is casting a black actor in the same role, everybody stands up and claps in amazement. THAT IS FUCKING RACISM! It should not matter, you should not care if it’s white or black, it should be the same. Stop seeing the color of people’s skin or their religion or anything and then you will eradicate racism.

So a black football player is called a monkey, a white one is called a Nazi, so someone likes BDSM, another one likes to make fun of disabled people. It doesn’t fucking matter. Stop getting triggered about every single thing you encounter and you will discover that those problems that seem so important today will just resolve on their own. And maybe then you will have time to really enjoy your “BDSM lifestyle”…

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